The First Step is Admitting There is a Problem

 

 

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And I have a problem!  A work/life balance problem.  This blog is full of signs that my life has been off (let’s not go searching for them), but I can tell you that my stress levels have been through the roof, I’ve gained weight, I don’t have as much time for family and friends (or the BOY) that I’d like, and I feel like life is moving faster than I can catch up.  Just to name a few…

 

Furthermore, I seem to have lost sight of the big picture (a long healthy and active life) by getting bogged (and maybe sometimes dragged) down in miniscule daily stresses.  A change needed to be made!  It was time to figure out a solution. 

 

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I’ve known for a few months that I needed to make a change to my work situation, but I just wasn’t sure what that meant.  Professionally, I love what I do!  I work with incredible people who have inspired me and and encouraged my growth.  However, a job in pediatric health care is physically and emotionally exhausting.  Top that with a 60 mile round trip daily commute, 11+ hour work days, and a desire to train for new and exciting races…well, you get the picture.  Over the past few months,  I’ve had countless conversations with the BOY and my family who have listened patiently and shared their advice and suggestions.   Recently I decided to speak with my company about cutting my work hours from 4 days to just 2 beginning in June making today my last day as a full time employee.

 

This was not an easy decision.  We are taught that after high school, we should go off to college, get a degree, pursue a career, take a job with good benefits, and work hard.  There is no path that suggests it is wise to decrease your income by 50% (while your boyfriend/roommate is in law school non the less), yet this unmarked trail is the one I am looking forward to exploring.

 

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There were a few details that needed to be worked out (ie health insurance), yet the transition (thus far) has gone more smoothly than I expected.  Professionally, this change will allow me to explore other areas of interest and development that I have not had the time or energy to do in the past few years.  Personally, I am looking forward to catching up on sleep, meeting friends for lunch, learning tennis with the BOY, playing in the city with my family, reading more books, spending less money on tolls, getting to know my neighbors, updating my blog, going on vacation, doing more yoga, cooking dinners, responding to emails, taking a class, breathing fresh air, and feeling like a well rounded healthy adult.

Doesn’t that just sound wonderful?

 

Although this change was intended as a trial for summer, I am really hoping to have a more permanent, non-traditional work situation figured out by the fall that allows me to balance my love of working with children, helping others, and developing knowledge and skill, with the joy from spending time with my family and friends, relaxing, and playing!

 

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I am proud to have the courage to take this risk.  And…I am optimistic that I will discover professional opportunities and learn more about myself that will clear the path towards a successful, healthy, and unknown future!

 

 

How do you balance work, life, family, friends and fun?

Have you ever made a big professional change?

21 thoughts on “The First Step is Admitting There is a Problem

  1. GOOD FOR YOU! Seriously. If you love what you do and the people you work with, then your job is not the problem. You are lucky to have this opportunity to keep the job you love and just step back a little. It’s scary but you would have really burnt yourself out otherwise. I haven’t made a huge career change, but I’m looking forward to watching you find your balance and professional happiness. Maybe I’ll get inspired along the way 🙂 Have a good weekend!

    • Kristina, Thank You!
      You are so right about the burn out. I think without a step back the bigger risk is showing up each day as not the best version of me. That impacts my patient care and ability to work with the team. Cheers to good things ahead!!!

  2. I love your solution to get your life back in balance-you are very brave. I have 2 jobs but I only have 11 hour days twice a week and a very short commute to both (ie in the under 10 min range). I did quit working when my son was 5 months old. We had moved to Texas and I had no family or friends to help me if he got sick and my husband traveled a lot so I thought that staying home with him was a good idea. A year later financially we decided that we needed me to go back and I did for a year-but we realized that the money we gained was eaten up in childcare and dr bills (my son had 1 long ear infection and finally tubes) and so I stopped again. There are sacrifices to be made either way-it just comes down to your happiness and contentment. You have a job you love and I agree with Kristina-eventually you would come to seriously resent it. Good luck!

    • Thank you Debi!
      I so value your input and always enjoy getting to know more and more about you through your comments. I have plenty of options for jobs closer to my house that I could do part time. Spending less time in my car will do wonders for my body and morale!

  3. .. WELL WRITTEN… a wonderfully thoughtful post, and the photos are perfect…. go you!
    only one tiny observation..
    dad keeps the ipass toll spreadshed
    your brother manages access and issues
    I actually PAY the tolls
    and you USE the most tolls..!
    we love you and can’t wait for more fun times… together and watching you compete..
    hugs… mom

  4. I AM SO excited and PROUD of you!! This is HUGE! Making big changes like this are SCARY and I’ve come to realize that when we get that gut feeling that something needs to change, we need to change them! You still have your job, and you are still doing what you trained for, but just enjoying more time to yourself!! There is no rule book that says you have to work every single day in order to be successful. If anything, I think people that can dictate their own schedule and make more time for themselves are MUCH more successful than those slaving away trying to conform to society. You’re amazing, and this change will bring you so much joy! AMEN!

    • Brittany-I love your enthusiasm! Thank you! I am crazy excited for this next step and think that it will allow me to explore some other areas of my career. If things don’t work out, I can always go back to full time! I appreciate your support and hope to have some fun adventures to share on the blog!

    • Thank you Michelle! It will be great for me in the short term when I am working and commuting way less and even better in the long term when new doors open that I might not have thought to try. I appreciate your support!

  5. Good for you! So proud of you! Life is far too short to not pursue your passions and do what makes YOU happy! I’ve been feeling a little bit (ok, a lot) lost in my career for the past… hmm… oh, year… and know that something has to change soon. Thank you for the inspiration I needed 🙂

    • Erin-you inspire me balancing your career, blogging, and ironman training. I love seeing how you fit it all in and keep your amazing spirit. Thanks for taking the time to comment. Wishing you luck with taking the first step!

  6. Congratulations on this big decision! I have to say, I know how you feel! Deciding to quit my full-time job to become a student again, along with packing up my life and moving to Australia was the biggest decision I ever made, because I feared “the unknown”. It was “normal” to get a full-time, grueling job right out of college, but after 4 years, I still hadn’t saved a dime, was over-worked, and just wasn’t happy! I too was burnt out by my career, and just decided it wasn’t worth it to not be happy anymore. You are going to feel rejuvenated and like-new again. I wish you nothing but the best 🙂

    • Meredith, I can’t wait for that feeling! It was fun to read about your journey to Australia and I love that you took the risk of heading back to school. I’ve seen first hand (living with my boyfriend) how hard it is to go back to studying 6 years after college but also how rewarding he finds law school and how excited he is about the things to come. I am looking forward to a little fun and then some new challenges!

  7. Wow- congratulations for taking that step and having the courage to make the change. Although you’ve always sounded well-rounded, I’m sure you’ll have a lot more time to focus on things and people you like. I’m proud of you and can’t wait to read about what life has in store for you.

    • That means a lot. I really strive for balance which is why this last year has been so tough. I can’t wait for more yoga, books, races, movies and downtime with my man! I’m sure there will be a lot to share.

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